A 35-year-old woman recently told of a very upsetting event that took place in her family. She is no longer married and has a young daughter who is in touch with her ex-husband and his new girlfriend. Everything was fine until the mom told something about how her daughter talked to her ex-husband’s new girlfriend. This behavior seemed very wrong and even shocking to the woman, so she wrote a letter to our readers asking what they thought about it.

Vanessa and her husband broke up a year ago.

A 35-year-old woman named Vanessa recently wrote a letter. All she wanted was to hear as many different points of view as possible about her very complicated situation. What happened to her little daughter made the woman think she has every right to be mad. But she doesn’t want her reaction to hurt anyone’s feelings or do any harm.

“My husband Josh and I broke up a year ago,” the woman began her letter. That’s the kind of divorce where other people might even be jealous of how well and carefully we handled things. In fact, we no longer cared about each other, and we only lived together to take care of our daughter Miranda. But soon, we both wanted to start dating someone else, and we both thought it was time for our marriage to end.

Vanessa said, “Both of us worked hard to make sure that our daughter Miranda would be okay during our divorce.” We’ve both spent a lot of time with the kid, doing all of her things with her and treating her like the Queen of our souls, just like we did before. Miranda is a smart little girl, and we know she knew something was up between us. But as long as we didn’t change how we treated her, she wasn’t too upset about it.

Two people who were married got together with other people.

Vanessa keeps telling her story, “I’m now dating a man named Frank, who hasn’t met Miranda yet.” I chose to wait a little while longer before I do it because I want to make sure that we are really together.
My ex-boyfriend also has a girlfriend. They’ve been together for 5 months. I haven’t met her in person, but Miranda does visit them, and I didn’t mind that they talked to each other. I was actually glad that they got along so well that Miranda was complimenting Kylie (her girlfriend), and she does like her.

To be even more clear, Vanessa said, “I was truly happy that my daughter has another wonderful woman in her life.” Another thing I wanted to do was meet Kylie in person and thank her for being such a nice person and for how she treated our daughter. There is no jealousy in my heart; I’m fine with this woman being around my ex and my daughter. But there was one thing that made me mad and sad.

Vanessa found out something bad about how her daughter was talking to the girlfriend.

Vanessa continues her story by saying, “Miranda loves spending time with her dad and Kylie, and she does it all the time.” Three or more times a week, her dad picks her up. It’s important to me to always know where they’ve been and what they’ve done together. My ex-husband knows this, so he tells me about their activities, and Miranda adds some nice details as well.

The woman said, “I know Kylie would sometimes do lots of things to take care of Miranda, like combing her hair or buying her underwear.” That was fine with me. But Miranda went to see them last week, and I could tell something was wrong with the child when she got home.

Vanessa said, “When I carefully asked Miranda what happened and why she was so sad, she told me that she lost her rubber ducky and that’s why she was so upset.” When my little daughter took her rubber duckling to her dad’s house, I asked her why she did that since the duckling was only for baths and showers. I thought she took it somewhere else besides the shower, though.
This is when Miranda told me Kylie bathed her. It did this a lot of times, and this time they lost her duckling in Kylie’s bathroom.

Vanessa is shocked by what happened and wants to say what she thinks.

Vanessa wrote, “Kylie bathing my daughter made me very angry.” The fact that she did it more than once makes me even more mad. So, this wasn’t an emergency; it was just how she normally interacted with my sweet little girl. This makes me feel really strange. I think this situation is wrong, and I think I should set a rule that I won’t bathe my child unless it’s an emergency.

The woman said, “I’m all for Kylie being involved in less personal things while talking to our child, but I feel like I need to be honest about my worries and tell her she can’t bathe Miranda.” Do you believe I am reacting too much? Should I talk to my ex-husband or Kylie about how I feel, or should I just ignore it all and act like I don’t care? “What would you do if you were me?”

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