Family fights can start over things that don’t seem important. A woman who was angry reached her breaking point when her mother-in-law’s huge appetite seemed to eat not only her food but also her patience.
She told what took place.
My MIL has been coming over whenever she wants since I had my fourth child four months ago. When she’s here, she always helps herself do whatever she wants. Her offer to help me or the baby in any way has never come up. She’s only here to see her son, that’s all.
I made a small pot of coffee (enough for two cups) about three weeks ago. When the time came, I went to nurse the baby, and my mother-in-law came over and let herself in. She had drunk the whole pot by the time I got there. I ran out of coffee grounds. Or she’s eaten my leftovers right out of the fridge more than once. And she always says, “Thanks for the food/coffee!” as if I gave it to her, even though I didn’t. She’s making my life a living hell.
My husband said he talked to her about it, but I don’t really believe that. When she was here three weeks ago, I told her she needed to stop helping herself because she was eating and drinking things I wanted or made for myself. She said, “Sorry about that,” and then she didn’t come around for a while.
So, I made four pizzas at home today. I told the kids to finish their dinner on their own because I had to quickly put the baby to sleep for a nap and would be right back. It took over an hour because the baby was fussy. When I went back outside, ALL of the pizza was gone, and my mother-in-law and husband were still eating.
What was going on? My husband asked what was going on. I told him, “You guys couldn’t have even left me a slice? Sure, let’s feed the neighborhood before I even get to eat. That’s so nice of you guys! Thanks!” and to leave.
When my 13-year-old son comes in, he says, “Mom, I forgot to put a plate out for you. I put it right on the counter.” He walks over to get it, but it’s gone. She said, “I thought it was leftover from dinner.”
My son says sorry to me even though he didn’t do anything wrong, but my MIL and husband just wait? They are not saying anything at all. I told them both, “You need to leave now,” looking at them both. Then my husband spoke up. He said it was a “honest mistake” and that “no one meant any harm.” He also told me I was making a big deal out of nothing, which made me even more angry.
That’s when I lost it again. “Yeah, but every time your mother comes here, I don’t get any because she eats or drinks my share of everything. But sure, let’s defend someone taking food out of my mouth, shall we?” His mother storms out of the house, and my husband looks at me like I’m crazy. I tell him, “Quick, chase her,” and leave.
My husband believes I’m crazy and wishes I had “acted like an adult” during this whole situation. He’s not going to come home. I don’t even want him to come home right now because his mother will not be there.
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