Planning a wedding is hard because you have to make sure that all of your guests’ needs are met while also remembering that the main focus should be on the couple getting married. Just like this happened with a bride-to-be from Reddit who chose to plan her wedding the way she saw fit and on her own terms.

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This is what she wrote:

Before you all start saying that my fiancé should leave me because I’m crazy and that he’s a bad person for having to deal with me, let me make it clear that these wedding rules were agreed upon by both myself and my fiancé. In fact, many of them were his idea. I’ll write down each rule and explain why people, even our families, were against it.

Rule 1: The ceremony and reception couldn’t have any music playing until dinner was over and the dance party began.

That means you can’t use the phone at all unless it’s an emergency. The ceremony went well, but the dinner was too much for some people. A lot of my parent friends also said that since they were leaving their kids at home, they should at least be able to check their phone with the babysitters.
I told them that if I did something special for them, I’d have to do it for everyone, so no. Unplugged really means unplugged. It’s not an emergency to check in with your kids. You’ll know if something bad happens.
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Rule 2: Stick to the color scheme and strict dress code.

It’s all black, and women have to wear dresses and men have to wear tuxedos. Women can’t wear pants. People responded to this in two ways. My aunt has been grieving for her late husband for more than two years and just got rid of all her black clothes a few months ago. She is trying to move on with her life and says that wearing black makes her sad. This was also a problem because my husband’s sister has body dysphoria and hates dresses on her. She always wears pants instead.
Once more, if we let two people off the hook, we’ll have to let everyone off the hook.
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Bridesmaids must follow Rule 3.

We ordered the bridesmaids’ dresses a long time ago. That’s why they’ll keep the same weight. Do everything you can to stay big if you’re a bigger person. Fast food will make you fat. Give it up for a while and stay slim. We are going to have a problem if the dresses don’t fit you, so watch what you eat.
They didn’t like this because they said I couldn’t watch what they eat. I don’t know if my bridesmaid is telling the truth when she says that rule gave her an ED. There’s no official diagnosis, so I wish her luck.
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Rule 4.

The daughter of my MOH was supposed to be our flower girl, but she says she can’t because the child needs to stay with a babysitter at a hotel after the ceremony. She lives four hours away from where I’m getting married. To save money on babysitters, she was going to let her daughter stay with her mom. Now she won’t bring the child as a flower girl and will leave her at the hotel with a babysitter.
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“From the beginning, my in-laws have broken most of our rules,” she said. They have been great to us so far, but my mom got so mad that she said these rules mean our wedding will fail from the start. Many people have cancelled at the last minute, and bridesmaids have said they might not show up.

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A lot of people on Reddit quickly agreed with each other that the bride-to-be should change her rules.

Rule 1: You can’t expect your guests, kids or not, to put away their phones and tablets at your reception. It’s pretty common for the ceremony itself, but their life doesn’t revolve around you, wedding or not.
Ladies, get out of the 1950s with the dress code rule 2. Pants are a great way for women to look.
Rule 3: Do not do it at all. No, please. This one really puts you in the power-tripping bridezilla zone.
Rule 4 makes it sound like you don’t want any children at the ceremony and don’t want MOH to take care of her daughter after she’s done being a flower girl.
Get better, girl, before you lose all your friends. I’m CrystalQueen3000 on Reddit.

People will have to follow your rules, which will hurt your guests and probably a lot of friendships. If you want your ceremony and reception to be empty, then act like the dictator you seem to be. @broadsharp2 / Reddit
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Rule 1: Ceremonies should make sense. Dinner or a reception—not reasonable or possible.
Rule 2: It’s completely and utterly mad. There will be a lot of drops over this. If this is how you have to dress, I have no desire to go to a wedding.
Rule 3: It’s not just unreasonable; it’s horrible. You’re crazy to try to control what your bridesmaids eat and how they look. The things you expect and demand from them are actually making their lives a living hell.
Rule 4: Your MOH does NOT have to give you a flower girl if your rules about how to care for her child make her feel uncomfortable.
You’re a terrible bridezilla. Stop it, or your family will be mad at you for a long time and you’ll have a lot fewer friends than you had before. I’m Mehitabel9 on Reddit.

If you don’t get rid of those rules and say sorry to everyone soon, you might be at the wedding by yourself with your groom. You should also say sorry to the mother of the bride and groom very much and find another flower girl or not have one. I can’t imagine expecting her to be a part of the wedding and photos and then leaving her with a stranger who works as a hotel babysitter. On Reddit, @Americanhealth74 wrote:

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