For women, weddings are usually seen as happy times. But everyone knows that disagreements can happen, especially with mothers-in-law, which can ruin the fun. A Reddit user recently asked for help and support from the community when she was having trouble getting along with her mother-in-law during this important time.

This is what she wrote:

“I have no words to describe this woman. I haven’t even told my family or close friends about it yet.” It’s really shocking to me. I found this site by accident on Google. After reading some posts and getting great advice, I realized that no one had ever been in the same situation as me. My fiancé is also busy with work, so we haven’t talked about this either.

The fact that this woman hasn’t said it makes it clear that she doesn’t like me. She calls me by the names of my fiancé’s ex-wives, which are much longer, even though my name is only three letters. He told her to stop doing that when he saw her doing it again.

Her reason That’s because she’s getting old and forgetful, she says. She’s only about 50 years old. It can be hard for me to figure out what she really wants because she is very subtle and passive-aggressive.

“Just so you know, I come from a middle-class family and my fiancé’s family is very wealthy.” So, at the surprise party my fiancé threw for me, his mom gave me a hint that my gift would be coming in the mail later. I was shocked to find out it was a prenup! My family has never been through something like this before.

Based on what I read and what I talked about with a coworker who is married to a lawyer, the terms of the prenup are pretty strict. It has clauses that say you don’t have to pay spousal support if you get divorced and even penalties for cheating. One of the strangest parts is that I have to spend time with the people I will marry.

My soon-to-be-wife’s mother knows I have the prenup because she’s been calling me nonstop since it got here. I need to decide if I want to sign this prenup or not. I’m not sure which one to choose because both seem too extreme. My fiancé asked his mom what she got me, and she just smiled and said, “You’ll see.” So I don’t think he knows about it.

It was called “extremely unfair and dehumanizing” by a lawyer I talked to. Is it normal for someone who is going to be a mother-in-law to push for something like this, or am I being too sensitive? Now she wants me to sign it so we can move on with our wedding plans.

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