Marriage is built on trust and dedication. On the other hand, cheating is one of the worst kinds of betrayal. Whitney’s letter shows how painful it was for her to find out that her husband Jack was having an affair by finding a burner phone full of sexy messages and photos from his mistress. To say the least, what she did to get revenge was unheard of.
“My husband Jack (37M) and I have been married for eight years. We have two young children together, who are 5 and 3. I began to notice that Jack was acting oddly a few months ago. He was always on his phone, working late, and getting angry when I asked him simple questions. I just knew something wasn’t right.
I chose to look through his things one night while he was in the shower. Sure, I understand—that hurts trust and privacy. But my doubts were getting the best of me. I then found it: a cheap, pay-as-you-go burner phone hidden in his dresser drawer. When I turned it on, I was shocked to see dozens of gay texts and photos from a woman named “Amber.”
I was gutted to death. I had faith in and loved the man who was having an affair right in front of me. He was the father of my children. There were times when I wanted to talk to him right away, but other times I wanted to get even first. Instead of telling him it was me, I chose to be sneaky and teach him a lesson that way.
Using the fake phone, I texted him as “Amber,” at first being all nice and flirty. “Hey babe, can’t wait to see you again soon ;)” He fell for it, calling her by pet names and responding right away. I lied to him for a few days to get his trust. I said, “You know, I’ve been feeling so insecure lately about how much you seem to put your family first sometimes.” “Don’t worry, baby, you’re my number one,” he said, making me feel sick. “You’re my true love; my wife is just a duty.”
That’s when I really went for it as “Amber.” I started asking for expensive gifts like designer handbags, jewelry, and first-class plane tickets for a romantic trip to “prove” his love. I was shocked that the fool always fell for it and spent a lot of money. At the start of each gift, I’d be nice, but then I’d scold him for not getting it done.
And finally, I told Jack that I had made plans for us to get tattoos that match. He enthusiastically agreed, and I made an appointment at a tattoo shop with a great reputation. The tattoo artists told me they were in on my plan when he got there, all excited. They put Jack down and tattooed a “jerk” on his lower back for a short time.
After that, they showed Jack screenshots of all of our conversations and told him the truth: “Amber” had been his wife the whole time. Jack was completely embarrassed and broke when he got home. He told me everything about his affair and begged me to forgive him, saying he would never cheat again because he had learned his lesson.
I didn’t scar or cut him up permanently when I gave him the temporary tattoo. I did it to teach him a lesson. But a part of me wonders if my elaborate plan to get back at him by tricking and lying to him for weeks on end went too far.
So, Am I wrong for using this crazy plot to get back at my cheating husband without telling him until the very end that it was me? I was weak and didn’t face him directly, so I took the easy way out. But I think he got what he deserved, and it might have helped save our marriage. I’m okay with being judged because I know what I did was wrong.
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