Trust is an important part of a healthy relationship. When a couple trusts each other, they both feel safe and at ease. Lack of it can quickly destroy the relationship, as it’s full of doubts, arguments, and even stress.
Today’s heroine, Miranda, 33, went through it all in her marriage, which seemed to be going well. The desperate woman had to leave her husband, even though she loved him very much, because he was acting so creepy one day. She wrote us a letter and told us her amazing story in great detail.
Miranda has known her husband for a long time and thought he was a good person to be with.
Miranda, who is 33 years old, wrote us a very sad letter. Things were going well for her family until one day, when her husband Josh went too far and started asking her to do crazy things.
In the first line of her letter, the woman said, “My husband and I have known each other for a long time.” Five years ago, we were just friends, and ten months ago, we got married. His family and I get along great. My in-laws love me, and I’m friends with his cousins, sisters, and even school friends. Before not long ago, everything was really cool.
The problem is that my husband has been making me feel very bad, and there were warning signs before that I didn’t pay attention to. I know I should have been careful now.
Miranda goes on to say, “First, he asked me who I was meeting, where I was going, and what my friends and I were planning to do.” I started having this happen every time I left the house without him. At first, I thought my husband was being too protective. I thought he was just being a good partner and watching out for me in case something happened. He had never done that before, so when he started looking at my phone, I felt really stressed.
The woman saw other warning signs in the way her husband was acting.
Miranda said, “My husband also wants me to connect my bank account to his.” Because he’s in charge of the money, he told me I should do it. But it made me mad because he was fine with keeping them apart while we were living together. Almost every day, we fought about this issue, and in the end, I gave in and did what he wanted.
After thinking about it, I should not have let this happen because it was the beginning of something even worse. But there was already no way back.
“I’ve never lied to my wife or husband about going out or who I was meeting.” I wasn’t hiding anything.
But when he started calling everyone I talked to to confirm what I said, I felt hopeless. Every little thing was brought up by other people, like if I sent any texts, ordered food, and how much I ate. I began to feel like I was being pushed into a corner slowly.
Over time, things got even worse.
Miranda said, “Not long ago, my husband was getting ready for a three-week work trip.” He came up to me and told me I had to wear a tracker so he could keep an eye on me while he was gone. It’s not enough to say that I was shocked!
I no longer think I can do this. Everything makes me feel like I can’t breathe, and I don’t have any personal space left, not even for the smallest and most harmless things.
“I tried to talk to him about how he was acting, but it didn’t work.” He told me he was sure I was cheating on him, but he doesn’t have enough proof yet. “The man I used to know is gone, and I can see how my husband is changing into someone who is crazy about the idea that I’m cheating on him.”
Miranda has to make a choice but doesn’t know what to do.
“I’ve talked to my in-laws about my husband’s worrying behavior,” the woman wrote. To his surprise, though, they agreed with him and said he was just being careful and protective. He was acting like a good husband should, they said. After that, I packed up my things and left before he got home. Once he knew I wasn’t there, he kept calling me, but I blocked him everywhere.
“I’m going to file for divorce now, but I’m filled with worry that it will destroy me.” I still love my husband, and the years I’ve been with him have been great. On the other hand, how can I live with someone who is so full of doubts and crazy thoughts? I can’t even count on his family to help me reason with him. What should I do?”
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