For many men, raising another man’s child may seem like a very hard thing to do. But not for our 37-year-old hero today. He loves his stepson very much and has spent a lot of time and effort getting close to him.

The man wants to adopt the son from his ex-wife’s previous relationship. He thought his ex-wife would be okay with it. The man is shocked when the woman completely rejects his best intentions. In a letter, he told us everything about his complicated case and asked our readers for their thoughts and suggestions.

Adam and his wife have made their family nice and happy.

Adam, who is 37 years old, wrote that he chose to share his story with us and our readers because he wants to hear more thoughts and suggestions. The man is completely lost because he thinks that his best intentions toward his stepson have been ignored and put down. On the other hand, Adam thinks that his family isn’t fair because he adopted his wife’s son.

“Hi, Bright Side!” the man wrote in the first line of his letter. I want to tell you about my problem, and I hope that many of your subscribers can relate. I also hope that your readers can give me good advice on how to fix the mess my wife’s point of view has caused me.

Adam keeps going and tells us more about his family. “My wife Stella and I have been happily married for over 5 years now,” the man wrote. It looks like we’ve both been in relationships before, which is fine with us both. Stella, on the other hand, came into my life with her 1-year-old son from a previous relationship. I thought it was great that this little boy and my beloved woman were together.

Right away, Adam and his son fell in love with each other.

Adam said, “Stella’s son Ryan was a wonderful and adorably cute baby.” I had always wanted to have a child of my own as an adult, but life had other plans for me. I can’t have children because of complications from an illness I had when I was 17. The little boy has had me in his life since he was a year old. Being his dad was a blessing for me.
I cared for him just like his mom did. I did everything a loving dad would do. I got up when he cried in the middle of the night, changed his diaper, fed him, and spent a lot of time with him, doing everything I could to help him grow. I was proud of every accomplishment Ryan made, and I always made sure that he and his mom had money. We hit it off right away, and I love him so much. “He is my son and my sunshine.”

Adam also said that Ryan’s real father is not involved. The person wrote, “Ryan’s dad has never been interested in his son.” She told me that she didn’t really know him when they were together because they didn’t have any responsibilities or expectations for each other. Once she learned she was pregnant, she told Ryan’s biological dad. He wasn’t happy about it and told her to decide for herself if she wanted to have a baby or not. And he was never seen again.”

Adam wants to legally adopt Ryan, but there’s a catch.

After telling his story, Adam says, “I’ve always wanted to legally adopt Ryan as long as we are close and he calls me dad.” I didn’t push this issue at first because I knew Stella might need some time to get used to our new family and she might also want to see how our relationship with Ryan is growing.
Since things were going even better than we thought they would, I thought it was time to finally talk about this. I told my wife that I had to adopt Ryan and get the paperwork done so that our whole family could do it.

“I thought she would respond in a nice and positive way.” I really believed this would be a wonderful surprise for her. I really thought that she would be pleased with my plans to date the boy.
But, to my surprise, she flatly refused my idea from the start. When she said “No!” over and over, I couldn’t believe it. I could see that she was so angry that I even brought it up. She thought my plans to adopt Ryan were offensive, and I didn’t understand what made her so upset about it.

Adam talked to his wife about her denial, and now he wants to get a divorce.

In the next part of his story, Adam says, “I immediately asked Stella to tell me why she had such an unexpected reaction.” She didn’t want to talk about it at first because she said she was angry for personal reasons. Then I talked to her about it in a serious way, and I kept at it until she finally gave up. She told me that she thinks her son Ryan should decide if it should be legal, but she wants to wait until he is old enough to do it on his own.

“I don’t understand Stella’s reasoning at all. My friend Stella told me she doesn’t want to make it official because she doesn’t want Stella to have to fight me for custody of Ryan if we get a divorce.
I’m angry and hurt by how my wife acts, what she believes, and the demands she makes. I want a divorce because I don’t see any point in living this kind of life. Our family doesn’t trust us, and it’s heartbreaking. The only thing that keeps our family together right now is my relationship with Ryan. If I break up with Stella, I’m afraid I’ll lose him. What should I do?”

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