Many people have long thought it was wrong to date other people while in a committed relationship. Being open is still not very common, but a lot of people want to be.
Today’s main character has seen another side of open marriage, and she now feels bad about the choice she made. She told her story in a letter, which she then put online so that people could read it and give her feedback. There was a big surprise at the end of her long, complicated story.
Eva has been happy with her traditional marriage for a long time.
Eva, who is 35 years old, chose to tell her dramatic family story. The woman looked like she had mixed feelings about everything, and she admitted that she’s still not sure about the choice she made when her marriage turned into a circus. Eva wanted people online to say what they really thought about the fight in her family.
Eva said, “Hi!” when she opened her letter. In my marriage, which seems solid and happy, I’ve been through something very strange. Frank and I have been married for more than 10 years and are very happy together. I’ve always thought that our family had the kind of peace, trust, and loyalty that every happy family has.
I’ve never even considered having a relationship outside of my marriage that would hurt it or be seen as cheating. Frank has always put his family first, and he has never done anything to make me think that his feelings for me aren’t real or that he’d rather be with someone else.
Eva’s husband is now interested in having an open relationship.
“After the birth of our second child, I started putting on weight because of some hormonal disorder,” Eva says next in her story. Frank could tell I was feeling bad about how I looked changing, so he tried his best to reassure me that I looked beautiful with my curves.
Frank dropped a bombshell one night when he hinted that he’d like to have more variety in his life. That was the last straw for me to accept that I had put on some weight. He told me he loved me very much, but he felt the need to have a “additional partner” who looked different from me.
“This was a sign that my beloved husband would like to try a side relationship, preferably with a skinny woman. That’s why he thought about having an open relationship with someone in our family.”
That was a big surprise to me at first because I had never thought about something like that before and I didn’t need any other partners besides my husband. Also, his hint that he’d like to date a skinny woman seemed like an insult, and I thought it was a very bad thing to say, but I chose to ignore it.
Frank and Eva started living together in public, which caused a big scandal in the family.
Eva wrote, “Frank stopped beating around the bush one day and told me that we should try an open marriage.” Even though I had a lot of doubts about this idea, I finally gave up and agreed, even though I didn’t want to.
Even though I wasn’t looking for a partner myself, Frank started dating other women right away. I chose to ignore what was going on as much as possible and keep myself busy with hobbies and other things.
I was shocked when Frank brought one of his side partners to our house and introduced her as Alyson. He then told me that she would be staying with us for three to four months because she was having problems with her landlord and needed a place to stay until she could find a good apartment that met all of her needs.
It’s not enough to say that I was dumbfounded. At that very moment, I already knew I was going to divorce my husband because he went too far in wanting to not have to do anything. But I chose not to cause a scandal and instead planned to get back at them.
Eva taught her husband something that he most likely will never forget.
Eva wrote, “As soon as Alyson, my husband’s new partner, came home, this bold woman began to act like she was the wife and I was just a stranger.” All the housework was being done by me, and she was just relaxing and having fun with my husband.
Everything I did around the house stopped one day. Only my dishes and our kid’s dishes were washed. I only cleaned up after myself and the kid, and I only cooked for himself and me. This behavior made Frank mad, and he noticed that I stopped making his lunch before he went to work.
Instead of doing my duties as a wife, I stopped doing anything around the house and pretended I was a guest. In one instance, Frank suggested that we talk, and I was ready to start the conversation because I had something to say. I insisted that we talk with Alyson present because she was now a member of our family. Frank was surprised by this idea, but he agreed.
“Then the three of us sat down to talk, and Frank said in a strange way that he was confused and angry about how I was acting.” He told me that we both chose to be married in public, and he thought I liked the idea. His complaint was that I was treating him like a stranger, which made him sad and angry. I paid close attention to all of his complaints until it was my turn to talk.
The calm voice I used was something I practiced a lot to get ready for this nasty conversation. I told him, “Dear husband, I have to say that I’m also upset about having this open marriage.” You thought I liked the idea, but I felt terrible about it from the start. I only agreed to it to make you feel better, which I deeply regret. My needs and feelings were completely ignored by you, so I’m no longer your wife. You now have another wife who lives with you and has to do all of your chores.
She has to help you with chores around the house, cook your lunches, and watch over you. She is now a member of your family, not mine, because I never liked the idea of having that kind of family. I want to know if Alyson is happy about the fact that she’ll be doing your laundry, cleaning your bedroom, and helping you with all of your daily problems.
Eva wrote, “What I said made Alyson and Frank look very upset.” They didn’t expect this at all. With a dramatic look on her face, Alyson got up and left the room. Frank began to say sorry. I no longer cared, though.
I packed up my things and moved out. Now I’m getting a divorce. Should I give my husband another chance, or do you think I’m on the right track?”
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